How to stay calm during Toddler's Tantrum
You might think that you're an expert when it comes to keeping your toddler calm and collected in a toddler tantrum, but how do you stay calm during the worst of them? Here is something I have learned over time after dealing with toddlers that make their own noise.
When your child is whining about things they don't like (like playing on a teddy bear, or being unable to play in the backyard as much), try not to let your guard down. When your child is screaming for attention and is beginning to cry (or tantrum because they get too many "time out's"), take a deep breath and hold back whatever negative emotion is coming up. Try not to allow yourself to be reactive, just take a moment to slow down a bit, take a breath before you can react, and maybe just say a few encouraging words.
This will help keep your child from getting upset so bad that they can't control what they are doing. Don't give up a chance to win them over, they will keep fighting until the end of the world and nothing will change that. The only time you could possibly lose is if the crying gets worse. So try to keep a calm head and do whatever you can to make them feel better. They're only kids, you can tell them that they can let go and they'll get over anything that happens. A few times throughout the day, a toddler usually does what they are asked, but then there's the other two. They whine for no reason or won't go to sleep at night because they heard noises while walking or they were crying because their parents left for a long time. Make sure to let them know that if they want to scream about things they are not happy with, they can scream about something else instead. For example, they may want to scream about the fact their parents left. Tell them what it sounds like, and maybe give one more minute until they settle down. After a while, they will settle down and become sweetly cuddles. If you are concerned with your toddler trying to get angry all by themselves, try repeating to them that their mothers didn't leave, and also reminding them that they don't need to scream, as they are young and shouldn't be too frustrated. It works very well and it only helps because sometimes they just aren't listening to you or aren't hearing what you say. In some cases, children learn better from saying and hearing things than from doing them so if you want your child to be less agitated, try taking turns with something simple like this. Then try making sure your toddlers are quiet while waiting for you to get home. If you need to go somewhere more than once, bring a stuffed animal with you, so when you go home early from work, you're both looking forward to seeing each other, which will help keep your child from having a meltdown alone, and even help in calming their nerves.
This isn't the complete list of things to keep in mind when you're dealing with toddlers. It's just a way of handling them when they become upset and having them ready when you need them. Now that it's a routine and they are old enough to understand what's happening, don't be afraid to ask for some advice, but most importantly, treat them as adults. Be polite, get them all the facts and information needed to understand, do whatever you can to ease their minds, and just show your patience during those moments. Take all the time and effort you need to calm them down so that they don't panic and hurt yourself. Just remind them that they got time to relax and you can still be there for them. Hopefully, this has helped some of you out and I hope that it helped you as well, so thanks for reading! :)
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