How to stay calm during Toddler's Tantrum You might think that you're an expert when it comes to keeping your toddler calm and collected in a toddler tantrum, but how do you stay calm during the worst of them? Here is something I have learned over time after dealing with toddlers that make their own noise. When your child is whining about things they don't like (like playing on a teddy bear, or being unable to play in the backyard as much), try not to let your guard down. When your child is screaming for attention and is beginning to cry (or tantrum because they get too many "time out's"), take a deep breath and hold back whatever negative emotion is coming up. Try not to allow yourself to be reactive, just take a moment to slow down a bit, take a breath before you can react, and maybe just say a few encouraging words. This will help keep your child from getting upset so bad that they can't control what they are doing. Don't give up a chance to win ...